One question popped into my mind and it went something like: If someone loves me, am I obligated to love back that person? I asked a lot of my friends and the common answer was no but one friend of mine answered differently. He told me that I should love that person back but not in a way that that person loves me. He told me that it is a gesture of thanksgiving and acknowledging that someone loves me and I should be thankful about it. That I may not be able to return the kind of love that I was given but at the least I acknowledged the gift that I was given. Or that if I may not be able to love that person back, at least I won’t hate her. That’s the very least that I can do. And maybe he was right.

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I’m not a love doctor or a relationship expert but I would just like to share what I learned based on my experience on how to keep a relationship alive. To start with, you need to know the person you love. You need to know your partner with all your heart. This would allow you to understand what is going on with you partner’s thoughts. After achieving a high level of understanding for you partner, you will then soon accept that person wholeheartedly and try to change some of his/her attitudes whenever you see it necessary. After knowing, understanding, and accepting that person, you have to establish your trust for that person. Jealousy is a major problem between lovers. It is the reason why most the lovers today are separated. Jealousy can be due to your love for the person of your lack of trust for the person. To eliminate jealousy is to give your full trust to that person. Loyalty can also be a major problem for lovers. The existence of third parties often destroy relationships. Time should also be given importance. The times you spend with your love allows you to know better the person and cultivate your love for him/her. Show your love to your partner by showing how much you cared for that individual.

Never do hasty generalizations and unjustified conclusions. Sometimes our emotions of hatred don’t get us anywhere. Often than not, it is our words that puts an end to a very happy relationship. Problems are sure to come in every relationships and these problems help strengthen the relationships you have or leads you to an end. How you deal with these problems determine the fate of your relationship.

These are some of the few things I learned about loving someone. I hope this would help those who need them. Don’t forget to love with all your heart.

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I don’t know why it’s hard for us to let go of things. Maybe because we are not used to not having it anymore. It means something has been deleted from your life and it’s to accept that. Living without that thing and waking up everyday knowing it does not exist in your life anymore.

More like love, letting go of the person you once gave your whole heart to is now gone and will never be there for you again. That’s how it is and we have to live by that for the rest of our lives. For that’s how life is, and we have to accept. Letting is never easy and it never will. Especially if your love has grown deep for that person. For love is life, and letting go of that love, means letting go of that life…

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How do you heal a wounded heart when you don’t see a wound nor blood?

I had the same question. I have been asking myself how would I be able to heal myself from a relationship that recently failed? How would I be able to go on with my life when all I see is darkness. Losing someone you truly love hurts. And it even hurts knowing that you still love each other but its the present situation that hinders your happiness. How would you be able to accept a sad fact that your relationship cannot go on? How?

Then it just came to me how I was so concerned with what happened that I forgot those who loves me. The people around me who have been there from the start. People come and go in my life and I am glad that there are those who stayed and are willing to stay for me forever. My family and my real friends never left me whenever I needed them and whenever I didn’t. I;m glad that somehow, although I lost someone I loved most, they are still there always willing to lend a shoulder. My heart is broken but it will be healed through time. With the people around me, life is better…

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Being rejected by the one you love most hurts a lot… Though it was done in a jokingly manner, still you feel a sword being pierced at your chest… For some, jokes are fine if it is meant to make some laughs. But a joke that involves feelings isn’t the same. For if you are able to make a joke out of your feelings, then how can one know about your true feelings. Whatever relationship you have right now, always cultivate it with love, understanding and affection. Though not all relationships end up happy, still we learn from it and we strive to make it better next time. As for those who are rejected, keep in mind that it’s a normal thing and you have to learn with it. If the feeling is dead, you don’t have to die with it…

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February is the month romantic love of the year and February 14 is the day where lovers show how much they love each other. That day is today.  From what I observed, this day is the sweetest day for those who have boyfriends and girlfriends. They go out on a date on a fancy restaurant, boy gives girl flowers and chocolates, couples holding hand while walking in the park and other romantic stuff. Truly it is heartwarming to see people who are really in love. But this day is also one of the worst day for those who are brokehearted. They remember their pasts and how happy they were before the broke up. They might remember how painful it was being dumped and rejected.

As for me, I regard this day as a time where I can see lots of flowers, cakes, chocolates and balloons being sold almost in every corners of the street. It is when parks are filled with sweet lovers and couples and some groups of friends that are happily watching over some lovers. I enjoyed this day too because I get to hang with my friends as well. But I think, I don’t need Valentine’s Day to show how I feel for somebody. I mean, there are 365 days in a year and I’ve got all of that to show my feelings. But still, February 14 is still special because out of those days, it is the only time where you can freely express your feelings and just be happy… because it’s Valentine’s Day!!!

Happy Hearts Day everyone! Show some love!!!

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